What’s Left?Sep 2nd, 2010 | By admin | Category: Opinion
I got an email from a friend of mine whom I haven’t heard from in a while. It’s always so good to hear from someone you care about and haven’t talked to lately. Anyway, he sent along this very appropriate email that I wanted to share with you. The author is unknown but it must be some older life-schooled philosopher. I hope you like it.
A 92-year-old, petite, well-poised and proud man, who is fully dressed each morning by eight o’clock, with his hair fashionably combed and shaved perfectly, even though he is legally blind, moved to a nursing home today.
His wife of 70 years recently passed away, making the move necessary. After many hours of waiting patiently in the lobby of the nursing home, he smiled sweetly when told his room was ready.
As he maneuvered his walker to the elevator, I provided a visual description of his tiny room, including the eyelet sheets that had been hung on his window. I love it,’ he stated with the enthusiasm of an eight-year-old having just been presented with a new puppy.
Mr. Jones, you haven’t seen the room; just wait.’
‘That doesn’t have anything to do with it,’ he replied.
Happiness is something you decide on ahead of time.
Whether I like my room or not doesn’t depend on how the furniture is arranged … it’s how I arrange my mind. I already decided to love it. ‘It’s a decision I make every morning when I wake up. I have a choice; I can spend the day in bed recounting the difficulty I have with the parts of my body that no longer work, or get out of bed and be thankful for the ones that do.
Each day is a gift, and as long as my eyes open, I’ll focus on the new day and all the happy memories I’ve stored away.. Just for this time in my life.
Old age is like a bank account. You withdraw from what you’ve put in.
So, my advice to you would be to deposit a lot of happiness in the bank account of memories!
Thank you for your part in filling my Memory Bank. I am still depositing.
‘Remember the five simple rules to be happy:
1. Free your heart from hatred.
2. Free your mind from worries.
3. Live simply.
4. Give more.
5. Expect less.
Have a nice day, unless you already have other plans.
You know, after reading this for the second time, it reminds me of my late grandmother. She died just before her 102nd birthday. She was hard of hearing and couldn’t see very well at all but she got up every morning, got dressed and stayed busy all day long. On Sundays, she went to church each week. She couldn’t see the preacher, couldn’t hear most of what he said, but she was there in her pew, as she said, “where she was supposed to be on Sunday morning.” As far as I know, she never hated anyone, didn’t seem to worry too much, definitely lived simply, was giving and had no expectations except for her children to “do what was right.” If we are open to it, those around us have these life lessons to give us.
On another note, my niece and her husband got married in Hawaii on Aug. 13th. They had their reception here in Beebe last Saturday. It was fun seeing their wedding video on the beach in Hawaii and visiting with friends and family at the reception. I told my niece (Chelsea) that I expected them to live happily ever after. That goes for you, too, Justin! Just remember that a good marriage takes work and communication. (This advice from someone who has been happily single for the past 40 years). But I’m pretty sure that’s good advice. I wish them the best!!!!
Go to your happy place!
See you next week!